The Possibilities Of Sex

Level 4: Taking Sex To New Heights

Our relationship workshops have been developed from decades of experience working with couples and singles to help them use effective tools for dealing with trust issues with their partners, deepen intimacy, resolve conflict, and for finding life long partners.

The Possibilities Of Sex will teach you how to take your sex and pleasure to new heights, no matter where you're starting from. We make it safe and fun to explore your sex life and deepen your intimacy.

Cost: $495 per person.
When: November 18-19, 2023.
Where: Meadow Vista, CA.

Sex Matters

"Sex is the glue that keeps us together ..."

When sex is great, there’s nothing like it. When it's not, there's also nothing like! Sex can make our bodies sing with pleasure or sting with pain. Sex can make us feel vibrant and one with all; and it can make us feel embarrassed and ashamed. It's complicated. But when it's good, it's like all is right with the world.

We all know the experience of “life happens”. It might have been hot and steamy when we first got together but we get busy, right? There are so many chores and responsibilities that seem more pressing that sex and pleasure. Family, kids, chores, work, career, mortgages, aging parents, retirement planning, health challenges, it just never stops. Somehow we forget that we’re lovers, not just roommates who work together.

For a while, that might be workable. You might still squeeze in sex here and there. You find a “formula” that works, like kissing for a few minutes, maybe some oral for a few minutes, intercourse and done! Then you have sex that same way every time. Your sex becomes predictable, boring, forced, or simply non-existent.

Perhaps you find yourself justifying the lack of sexual satisfaction, telling yourself things like, "We're just so busy", or "It's not that important". But sex matters!

The renowned sex expert Dr. Kerner said it best. "Sex seems to be rapidly falling to the bottom of America’s to-do list; but, in my experience, when couples stop having sex their relationships become vulnerable to anger, detachment, infidelity and, ultimately, divorce. I believe that sex matters: It’s the glue that keeps us together and, without it, couples become ‘good friends’ at best, or ‘bickering roommates’ at worst.”

Here’s what you’ll learn and practice at
The Possibilities of Sex

How to generate spark, anytime.
How to initiate sex in a way that works.
Get sex and pleasure started, even if you haven't had sex for years.
Communicate in sex (incl. how to ask for what you want).
Educate each other in a respectful way about what works and what doesn't in sex.
Keep sex alive on a regular basis.
Transform shame and guilt to empathy and compassion.
Create a safe sacred environment for sex and intimacy.
Make sex fun, lighthearted, and safe.
Practice honesty and full self expression in sex.
Break through limited ideas and thoughts about sex (incl. how to deal with all the negative sex messages we've been taught).
Control ejaculation (this is crucial skill for men in expanding pleasure and enjoying multiple orgasms).
Use specific strokes and touches to increase and prolong pleasure.
And lots more …

What People Say About Our Workshops

About Your Facilitators

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Sonika Tinker, MSW, and Christian Pedersen, loving husband-wife team, are Relationship Experts with over 40 years combined experience coaching couples. They are the founders of The LoveWorks Solution, a practical, happy approach to marriage, relationship, intimacy and communication. They are experts at creating a safe space for couples.

Sonika is a Certified NLP Professional, Certified Enneagram Teacher, Certified Mediator and Co-author of Seize Your Opportunities and The Good Divorce. Christian is a Certified Life Coach, Certified Mediator, Mankind Project co-leader in training and author of When You Love Your Woman.

Workshop Details

The Possibilities Of Sex is a weekend workshop. We use a mixture of lecture, individual reflection, paired exercises, and various breakout activities. You do exercises with your partner and other participants. If you want to attend by yourself, we invite you to bring a friend to do exercises with you. Or contact us for help with this.

Our work engages your head, heart, and hands. In other words, we employ your logic, reach your heart, and give you practical actions to take. Add to our experiential approach the mastermind consciousness that is available in a group of like-intentioned people, and you are destined to reap the benefits from our multi-dimensional, uplifting learning method.

The Possibilities Of Sex Workshop is offered at $495 per person.

Workshop times:

Saturday 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM. Plus, Saturday evening 7:00 - 8:30 PM we'll show an educational film via Zoom (you watch from home or your hotel room).

Sunday: 9:00 AM - 4:00 PM.

Note: This course includes no nudity or sex, though sexually explicit educational videos will be shown.

Why Give Yourself To Love

Becoming Room Mates Instead Of Lovers?

If you’re anything like the thousands of couples and individuals we’ve coached and educated around sex, you don't want to just be room mates with your partner. You want a thriving, healthy, vibrant, intimate, safe, fun and sexy sex life, right?

A healthy sex life is about so much more than how many times we have intercourse. We humans thrive on touch and physical affection, and if it’s lacking between you, there’s a very sharp limit to how deep you’ll ever go in your relationship! In the workshop, men and women get to explore what exactly sex provides for them and their relationship, and when you hear what they say, it's going to blow your mind and melt your heart. It does for us, even after leading the workshop for over 10 years!

We’d like to invite you to blast open your idea of what is possible in sex. We want you to know that no matter what the current state of your sex life, you can make it pop. We can’t tell you how many people have said, “WOW! I had no idea!”, after they participated in this workshop.

One time, we had a young couple attend the workshop. They loved each other dearly, they treated each other with the utmost respect and loyalty, but their sex life was non-existent! They told themselves that “We don’t go there”, and that, “We just don’t feel it”, but that it was “OK, we still love each other”.

This is an example of how we justify the lack of sex and intimacy and minimize the importance of it. For this young couple, it turned out they really did want to have sex and physical pleasure, but they were terrified to examine that part of their relationship and scared to admit that they weren’t “turned on” by one another. After the workshop program, the guy said, “I’m not sure we’ll make it to the bedroom!”

Even though we all want to have a pleasure sex life, there are a lot of issues that can arise around sex, including …

One person wants more than the other
After having kids, your desire – and availability – for sex changes
With age, your body starts changing and aching
Intercourse can be painful, particularly for women
You don't feel wanted
Spark is flat-lining or gone
Sex is great, but you need variety, and you want to go higher
Sex brings up past hurts and traumas, making it really hard to open up
You don’t talk about sex, or when you do, it goes sideways

Over the years, we have guided couples and individuals around all these issues, and we know that it’s supremely important to cultivate a safe space to talk about sex openly and without fear or shame.

No matter where you are in your sex life, you can take it to the next level, and you will get value from this course. You may have sex twice a day and just want it to be more intimate and varied. If that is the case, you will learn some hot, inspiring new tools for profoundly deepening intimacy and pleasure.

Or maybe you haven’t touched each other for ten years and have no idea how to start up again. Not to worry. We will show you how start gently, and fully clothed, in a completely safe manner to reintroduce intimate touch into your relationship.

One couple who came to the workshop had been married for 20-some years. Their physical intimacy had withered a long time ago. They didn’t feel ready to jump right into sex, so we showed them how to start from where they were.

They are now, in their own words, “addicted to our pleasure sessions”, and their physical intimacy is safely deepening week by week.

In this workshop, you will begin to unravel the crazy sex messages that prevent you from being your authentic self in sex and discover a fun new way to express yourself freely in lovemaking.

You will learn what it means to take full responsibility for your sexual pleasure and release yourself from the burden of reading minds.

You will shift from "getting" or "performing" and "achieving a goal" to being present to pleasure and energy flow in the moment. You will re-claim your body, your right to sexual pleasure and full self-expression.

In short, no matter the current state of your sex life, you will take it to new heights!

My privacy is important – do I have to ‘air my dirty laundry’?

No, absolutely not. You get to decide what and how much you share every step along the way. We create a very safe, relaxed, light-hearted environment within which to learn new ways to be in relationship.
I’m busy. I just don’t have time for this.

Yes, we certainly know what it’s like to have a full plate. After going to work, dealing with kids, cooking, cleaning, shopping, and paying the bills, what time is left to focus on your relationship? We want to invite you to ask yourself, “What are my priorities? What’s really important for me and my family?” After having worked with hundreds of couples, we can state clearly that you don’t have time NOT to invest in your relationship. Just think how much time you’ve wasted in unproductive arguments that went nowhere. Don’t waste another precious moment.
Money’s pretty tight right now…

Yes, we understand that can sometime be a challenge. But trust us when we say, the price of admission is A LOT less expensive than legal council! It's not free, but it's a very affordable way to get relationship coaching. You get 9 hours of coaching and education for the price of 1.5 private coaching sessions. Commit to making it happen; go for creating a miracle. Or call us if you need help to get creative, we’ve helped many people make it happen.
Is one workshop really going to make a difference?

Yes! We’ve stopped counting how many people have been totally floored at the transformation from this one workshop. Have a look at the testimonials on this page. Of course we're not pretending that this workshop will fix all your issues and solve all your conflicts in a day. Your relationship is an ongoing practice; conflicts will keep arising. But after this workshop, you will have a different understanding of conflict, and new practical ways to address conflicts.
I don’t like big groups.

We create a very safe and intimate environment for you. You will not be the first one to have attended who had that concern. Much of the time, you will be in smaller groups, or with your partner. Not to worry, we take good care of you. And if you really do not want to be in a group setting, contact us for private coaching.
We’re not even sure we want to stay together.

Lots of couples have come to Give Yourself to Love on the brink of divorce and totally turned their relationship around, and gotten their husband or wife “back”. Some have gone on to create loving, cooperative separations. No matter what you choose with your current relationship, you will leave feeling much more confident in your ability to create a positive relationship experience going forward.
We just met. We’re in love. We don’t have any problems.

Congratulations. How wonderful. What you’ll learn in this workshop will give you practical ways to KEEP that in-love state going, instead of spiraling downhill after 6-12 months. Remember, most relationships started out with lots of love and no problems. If you have the right tools and foundation, it is completely possible to keep it that way.
We’re not doing THAT bad. We’ll get support later…

That’s what our friend Steve said before his wife crossed the Tipping Point and she was off with another man. He figured “we’ll deal with the problems some day”. Except, some day never came, and now it’s too late. Pay attention to the warning signs, and DO NOT wait till “some day”.
Do we have to be there for the whole day?

Yes. No exceptions. Give Yourself to Love is a whole, coherent experience. If you can’t make the entire training, change your schedule or book another time that works better for you.
My partner doesn’t want to come – what do I do?

Commit to attending anyway, no matter what. YOU want a fabulous relationship, yes? YOU know you can’t keep going as you have been! Your commitment is the best way to invite your partner to join you. You might even say to your partner, “I’m committed to doing what it takes to make this relationship amazing. I’m going to Give Yourself to Love. I really want you to come. Would you be willing to come with me?” If your partner has reservations, you can invite him or her to contact us. Sometimes speaking with us can help build trust and mitigate fears and concerns. But if your partner insists on not attending, attend by yourself. We have seen many people unilaterally turn their relationship around.
Are we going to be sitting on our butts the whole time?

Well, you will be sitting down at times🙂 But no, the workshop not a lecture where you’re sitting on your butt for hours while we drone on. We know that you learn much better when you are engaged and actively participating in exercises, so you can actually experience what we are teaching. Our relationship training is continuously shifting from class-style teaching to break-out groups, to paired exercises and large group activities. At one of our trainings, Steve (an engineer) said, “This is the first workshop I’ve ever been to where I haven’t looked at the clock once!”
We can’t make it to the date listed here.

When you register for Give Yourself to Love, you have the right to reschedule your date one time to another training.
Can I get my money back?

We do not offer refunds for purchased tickets. You may get a credit to other LoveWorks services, such as private coaching or other workshops, by mutual agreement with LoveWorks.

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