LoveWorks Podcast

Ep 44: My Partner Won’t Work On The Relationship

“My partner doesn’t want to work on our relationship!”

Have you ever been in that situation? Where you want to, and feel the need to, engage in some sort of relationship work, but you get a “No” from your spouse or partner?

Maybe you’ve been the partner who doesn’t want to engage in relationship work?

Just in the last few weeks, we’ve heard from 5 couples, where one partner is eager to work on the relationship, and the other partner is either resisting or flat-out unwilling.

This if sad because marriages/relationships break up because one or both partners didn’t engage in doing some sort of “relationship work” in time.

In coupled relationships, we’re big proponents of not making any significant decision before you get on the same page. But there is one important exception to that rule: When one of you wants to get relationship help, don’t wait till you both agree it’s “bad enough” to get support.

Besides, even if you’re happy with the state of your relationship, but your partner isn’t, you now live with an unhappy partner  who isn’t happy. Does that really work for you?

Listen to the full podcast for ideas for how you talk to your partner, and how you might understand your partner better.