Just last week, a woman sent me an email saying, “I am so sad and frustrated that my husband doesn’t listen to what I say!” Many couples who call us for coaching say they want help with their communication. They feel unheard and misunderstood. When they talk to their...
Do you ever feel judged and criticized by your partner? Do you have the sense that your husband doesn’t value you or your wife doesn’t respect you? Do you hear a lot of pointed statements that start with, “You are so ….”? Or perhaps you are the one to speak statements...
As a heterosexual man married to a woman, I can safely say that being in relationship with Sonika, and other women before her, has provided me with the biggest continual learning opportunity and the biggest blessing of my life. In previous relationships, I routinely...
The most common issue couples present to us is Communication (or lack thereof). It is one thing to communicate about logistics and practicalities such as who goes shopping, who makes food, who picks up the kids, and when. It's quite another to try and communicate...
We know there's a lot of financial stress in a relationship in a time like this when income and job security are threatened. People tell us the financial stress is killing their relationship and are asking us for advice on how to deal with the financial stress and...
Do you hate feeling judged in your relationship? Or you are you perhaps the one judging your partner? Either way, you and pretty much everyone else. The judgments we have of one another comes out of our mouths as complaints, criticisms, and accusations. We say things...
As a child, when I didn’t understand something my father was saying, he would simply say it again louder. If I still didn’t “hear him” the second or third time, he would continue to increase both his volume and enunciation of the same phrase over and over again to the...
We all know what it means to take stuff personally, because it’s really irritating when it’s happening to you. Sometimes you’re trying to share something meaningful or vulnerable, but when your conversation partner takes it personally, the deep sharing is over, right?...
We all know the value of exercising and staying fit. It’s practically recommended by every doctor and expert in the world. Does that mean we all do it? Not exactly. It’s the same in your marriage and other relationships. Unlike our physical health, we often have the...
