Relationships in the Digital Age

          Some time back, my daughter asked me to rub her back. I noticed myself hesitate. My addiction to my phone took over - I wanted to keep doing emails, checking Facebook, and beating people I didn’t even know at Scrabble. I had to...

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Why Play And Fun Matter In Your Relationship

          I remember sitting with my grandparents in the kitchen during one of our family trips to their home in Monterey. With a twinkle in her eyes, my grandma told me about the time she put water in grandpa’s shoes that were stored in the...

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The Importance of Feeling Heard

Just last week, a woman sent me an email saying, “I am so sad and frustrated that my husband doesn’t listen to what I say!” Many couples who call us for coaching say they want help with their communication. They feel unheard and misunderstood. When they talk to their...

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Protecting The Vulnerable Parts Of Your Relationship

          Have you ever had a hard time softening and reconnecting with your partner after being hurt, misunderstood, or unfairly blamed? Is it challenging for you to find your way back to love after a hurtful fight? When we are triggered, we...

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The Victim Strategy in Relationship

What is your first response when you hit a wall? When your partner disappoints you or when you don’t get what you want? Do you … Back off in defeat? Get angry and lash out? Feel hurt and freeze up? Question your own choices? Blame, complain or fight? Quietly rehearse...

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The Purpose of Your Relationship

          When I was in college, a girlfriend and I went on a trip to the East Coast. When we arrived at our destination, we were quite surprised to find out we had very different expectations of our trip. This resulted in a great deal of...

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A Netflix Relationship Just Like Yours

        Sonika and I enjoy a good series as much as the next binge watcher. Given our profession, it’s perhaps not surprising that we like shows where human relationships are front and center, such as This Is Us and A Million Little Things. But...

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Working as a Team in Your Relationship

        I have had a lot of experiences in life when I made a decision to do something that I knew my partner didn’t want me to do. Each time, the satisfaction of getting what I wanted was short lived, followed quickly by fights and upsets that...

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Physical and emotional intimacy in a relationship

        In our work, we often coach and teach couples about physical and emotional intimacy in a marriage or long-term relationship. In preparation for our Possibilities of Sex workshop, Sonika wrote an email to our subscribers where she...

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